There’s That Tongue Again

This morning’s reading from our devotional By Way of the Desert had a wonderful story of some people visiting a desert hermit. There were some young men shepherding sheep near his hermitage that were constantly using foul language. They asked the man of God why he didn’t tell them to stop. He replied:

“If I can’t endure something small like this language, how will I resist a serious temptation if God permits one to come to me? Therefore, I remain silent. I am trying to learn how to bear whatever comes my way.”

This brought to mind my own experience. In my many years of being a prison chaplain, I was surrounded by people using foul language. I had no thought process like that man of God just mentioned, but I simply never mentioned it to any of them. I never thought of myself as enduring anything, I simply ignored it. Even when someone’s frustrations turned on me and they began cussing me out, God gave me the grace to respond with a “soft answer” that always seemed to “turn away wrath” (Proverbs 15:1).

Over the years, some of those men would ask me how they could quit cussing. This happened many times and I always gave them the same advice:

“When you are getting ready to interact with people that you know will bring about cuss words, such as going to recreation, make the sign of the Cross over your mouth and ask Jesus to be the Lord of your mouth. Ask Him to guard every word that comes out of your mouth.”

Without exception, the next time I saw that man while making rounds, he would say something along the lines of:

“How does that work? I did what you said and I didn’t say one cuss word!”

I would respond to him: “The Lord did exactly what you asked of Him. But it likely isn’t a forever fix. You will need to repeat that often to gain victory over what comes out of your mouth.”

James 3 has a lot to say about the “tongue” and he tells us that “no man can tame the tongue” (James 3:8). But the Lord can and He will, if we ask.

Honoring the Virgin Mary?

The Holy Scriptures tell us that every generation will call Mary “Blessed” (Luke 1:46-55).  In fact, she is without doubt the most blessed woman to ever live. Considering all of the great women there have been throughout history, that is no small statement to make. Yet, out of all the women who have lived in this world, it was Mary that was chosen by God for the Incarnation of our Lord.

The early Christians thought so highly of Mary that they actually referred to her as the “Second Eve”. Where Eve was disobedient and brought death into the world, Mary was obedient and through her obedience the Lord Jesus Christ became man for our salvation, trampling down death by death. “Not my will but Your will be done” are words that should be on all of our lips.

So it is that the Orthodox Church sets aside the first two weeks of August each year to remember the life and the dormition of Mary. We do it with a fast that is meant to draw us closer to her Son and to honor her. Indeed, we do call her “Blessed”.

For those who may be struggling with any kind of honor being paid to the Virgin Mary let me offer this simple thought. Consider the first words spoken by the Holy Archangel Gabriel when he visited Mary:

“Rejoice, highly favored one, the Lord is with you; blessed are you among women!” (Luke 1:28)

These words were spoken by an Archangel of God who dwells in the presence of God Almighty. Take a moment and let that sink in for a bit. If the Holy Archangel Gabriel can venerate the Virgin Mary, what is so wrong with us honoring her. Absolutely nothing! We are not worshiping her, but we are indeed venerating her.

Every generation will call her “Blessed” and nothing has changed for our generation. An excellent podcast which has this truth and much more can be found at:


From my youth, I have spent much time in wilderness areas. If you do not pay attention to where you are, you can easily get disoriented. Growing up, we jokingly said that we never got lost, we simply took longer getting back than we anticipated.

The most disoriented I have ever felt was a time in my late teens. I was deep in the forest and began tracking an elk. I tracked him for about an hour with my total focus on the ground. When I finally stopped and looked around, I had absolutely no idea where I was. Clouds blocked the sun and there were no mountains or landmarks to be seen in the dense forest. I confess there was an instant rush of anxiety through my entire body as I realized my total disorientation (notice I still cannot use the word “lost”).

Fortunately, I didn’t panic but calmed down and realized the only way out of my situation was to recall what I did know and track that elk backwards, the exact way I had come.

In our spiritual lives, it is easy for a person to get their focus on the “ground” (the world) and find ourselves disoriented. Somehow, we managed to take our focus off the things that keep us on the right path. When we finally look up, we find ourselves disoriented. We suddenly realize that for quite some time we have not been to church, or we have not been praying, or that we haven’t read a verse of Scripture. If fact, we have not been focused on our spiritual life at all. What should we do?

When that realization washes over you, don’t panic. Remember that you are not lost; you are just taking longer to get back to the right path. Start right where you are by asking the Lord for forgiveness and to help you get back on the right track. Make the decision to go to Church the next Sunday. Take a few minutes and read the Scriptures for the day. Ahhh… Already you are calming down and heading in the right direction.

It is important to understand that becoming disoriented once in a while is very much a part of our spiritual journey. It happens to almost everyone. You are not “lost”. It is simply taking a little longer to get back to where you ought to be.

Whom Will We Reflect Today?

On a recent hike, I took this photo of a small mountain and cloudy sky reflected in a lake. It is a beautiful scene, but if you look closely at the reflection, you would note that it is not a perfect reflection by any means. In fact, you might say, “Father, why did you use that photo? There are so many perfect reflection photos available and this one is far from perfect.”

I chose this imperfect reflection for a singular purpose. There was a slight breeze blowing across the lake that morning which caused that imperfection. A breeze will bring small ripples across the surface of the water and the image is slightly distorted.

In my efforts to “reflect” Christ in my life, the “breezes” of this world blow across my life and I fall short of perfection. When those breezes become winds and even storms of life, I can begin reflecting frustrations and anger. Yet when we make the attempt to “reflect” the Lord through our lives, it is beautiful, imperfect for sure, but beautiful none the less. So how do we reflect the Lord in our lives?

Consider this verse of Holy Scripture: “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

In reality, there is only One Who is the LIGHT. Jesus said clearly: “I am the light of the world.” (John 8:12) The only true light that can shine forth from us is the reflected light of Christ in our lives. Christ is in us and our light is the Light of Jesus shining through us. It is reflected in our actions, in our words, and even in our thoughts.

Reflecting the light of Christ in this way, takes effort. For me, it doesn’t just happen because I got up this morning. I may pray: “Lord let my thoughts be Your thoughts; let the words of my mouth be Your words; let my hands be Your hands.” A beautiful prayer to start the day. But those breezes will come and my thoughts may wander, my words may betray my pride, and my hands may become an “angry fist” while driving. Those failures reveal the imperfection of my reflection of Christ.

I may be distorting my reflection of Christ by my foolish pride, my anger, my fears…in fact, the “breezes” of this world may have distorted the reflection I had hoped to have throughout the day. Those breezes may be brought about by the movie I watched last night or the news I listened to this morning. In fact, there are so many potential breezes in my life that it is a wonder that I could ever actually reflect the light of my Lord. And yet, the Lord continues to call me to let His light shine through me and reflect Him to this world.

If those “breezes” become winds and a storm in your life, remember that our Lord calmed the winds and the storm. We can reflect Christ any time and any place by focusing on Him and not on the breezes, winds, or storms.

One summer, many years ago, I was working with 40 teenagers in a secular program. Before the summer began, I selected Matthew 5:16 as my goal for the summer. I began each day reciting this verse and continue repeating it to myself throughout the day. I learned to love each of those teens and gave myself to doing everything I could for them. I never preached at them; I just loved them. By summer’s end, 30 of them had committed their lives to the Lord. It taught me a lifelong lesson, that if we can stay focused on reflecting the light of the Lord through our lives, people will notice and God will be honored.

This week, I encourage you to start each day with that verse: “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.” Be mindful of the breezes in your life and let that verse be your focus each day. Let’s see what takes place in your world.

What is Your Story?

Have you ever been out on a walk and seen some old giant rock or tree? On such occasions, I have often said something along the lines of: “Oh, if this rock could talk or this tree could talk, what a story it could tell.”

Take a close look at the photo of this tree. What story would this tree have to tell? It began with a seed rolling down the rock and falling in a crack. It found just enough soil to germinate. And thus began a life of enduring many trials. As it began to grow, heavy snows and freezing temperatures threaten its very life. As it became a sapling, it could look down on its brothers and sisters growing in plenty of soil and prospering in what seemed like a good life. Over the years, droughts would hit and the tree sent out its roots on top to the rocks hoping to find more water and soil, but there was none. Through all of these trials, the tree grew strong and lived many years. We couldn’t imagine how many lightning storms this tree survived over the years until finally a lightning strike ended its long life in the crack of a rock.

This was truly a unique tree with an incredible and unique story. Each of us has our own incredible and unique story; one that is ours alone. Unlike the tree, our story is still being written. The story we are living is as unique as each of us truly is. If you don’t think you are unique in all the world, just take a look at your fingers. Those swirls and lines that make up your fingerprints are yours and yours alone.

Your story is so very important. We live our story surrounded by others and yet no one really knows our whole story except for ONE, the Lord. He knows everything about us, even the number of hairs on our heads. He knows all the storms and droughts of life that we have gone through. He knows all the good stuff of our story and all of the not-so-good stuff of our story. Yet, in spite of all the wrong decisions and the bad things we may have done, He loves us and He has mercy on us.

Then, He calls us to go love and show mercy to the people we come across in life. They each have their own unique story that has made them just the way they are today. They may have endured storms that we can’t even imagine. They are unique in all this world just like you. May we be instruments of God’s love and mercy to those around us and in so doing, become a part of each other’s story.

The Christian Life is not a 100-yard Dash

Good day to you my brothers and sisters in Christ. Many Christians want to start using the Jesus Prayer in their lives. This is the prayer that uses the example from the story of the Pharisee and the Publican praying in the temple: The humility of the Publican is clear as he prays: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.” I normally ask them to start with 100 for the day (If they are really zealous, I would say try 100 in the morning and 100 at night). No more; no less, until you receive permission. After a week, there were some who reported doing 10,000 the previous day. Without exception, they would soon be doing zero. St. John Cassian addresses this issue head on:

“There is an old saying: ‘Excesses meet.’ Too much fasting and too much eating come to the same end. Keeping too long a vigil brings the same disastrous cost as sluggishness. Too much self-denial brings weakness and induces the same condition as carelessness.

Often, I have seen men who would not be snared by gluttony fall, nevertheless, through excessive fasting and tumble in weakness into the very urge which they had overcome. Unmeasured vigils and foolish denial of rest overcame those whom sleep could not overcome. Therefore, ‘fortified to right and to left in the armor of justice,’ as the apostle says (2 Cor. 6:7).

Life must be lived with due measure and, with discernment for a guide, the road must be traveled between the two kinds of excess so that in the end we may not allow ourselves to be diverted from the pathway of restraint which has been laid down for us nor fall through dangerous carelessness into the urgings of gluttony and self-indulgence.” (End quote)

The Christian life is meant to be one of moderation. There is so much danger in wanting to be a “Super-Christian” who fasts beyond belief and prays all night. Perhaps, like me, you have experienced the Superman “S” falling off your chest at some point. There is also so much danger in the opposite direction of being a “Lackadaisical-Christian” who never fasts or prays so very little. Sadly, the path of the “Super-Christian” often leads to one becoming a “Lackadaisical-Christian”.

The Christian life is not a hundred-yard dash. It is meant to be a life-long marathon. We should be strengthened slowly but surely so that our spiritual growth is steady.

A Glorious End to A Glorious Race!

And so, it comes to a close…Great Lent for 2021 is ending. As we look over our journey, it is important to do a self-evaluation.  Did I draw closer to the Lord during these 6 weeks?  How disciplined was my prayer life?  Was my fasting truly unto the Lord?  Did I spend time in God’s Word each day?  Was it a spiritual success?  If I had it to do over, what would I change?

The truth is that we cannot do it over.  We cannot change the Great Lent that is coming to a close, but we can certainly learn from this journey and apply it to our lives immediately.

Consider our reading from Genesis today.  It begins with the death of Jacob in one brief verse:  “When Jacob finished charging his sons, he drew up his feet into the bed, and breathed his last, and was gathered to his people.”  Our reading ends with the death of Joseph, also in one brief verse: “So Joseph died, being a hundred and ten years old; and they embalmed him, and he was put in a coffin in Egypt.”

Our Lenten Journey had a beginning date and an ending date.  So too, the lives of Jacob and Joseph had a beginning date and an ending date.  And, though some of us may want to deny it, we also have a beginning date and an ending date. “I will think about that tomorrow.”  That can work on some things, but it will not profit us one bit to avoid thinking about our own ending.  In fact, many of the very great Christians of the past encouraged people to think about their death every day, not to be dark and gloomy, but to inspire them to live that day to the fullest.

St. Paul tells us that we are running a race…this race is our life.  Would we enter any kind of race and not have a goal to finish that race?  If I enter a 5k race and only run 3k before quitting, what would I win?  Our race is indeed a marathon.  To run this race, we will enjoy the gentle down hills we come to and we will struggle up the hills we find along the way.  We may have aches and pains; we may grow thirsty and weary.  Thankfully, there are many aide stations along the route where we will find spiritual food and drink to fuel us on. And so we continue toward the finish line, running with others of like mind and remembering those who have run before us and finished their race.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” (Hebrews 12:1-3)

My dear brothers and sisters, we have finished another part of the marathon (Great Lent 2021). Now let us continue running the race that is our life, with the challenges that each day brings.  There may be hills or even mountains in our path, but God will give us strength as we put one foot in front of the other.  Our ultimate goal is to cross the finish line, hand in hand with the Lord, to the cheering of the great cloud of witnesses…what a glorious end to a glorious race!

With much love in our Lord Jesus Christ…Fr. Stephen

To Fast or Not to Fast? Is That the Question?

In our reading from the Holy Prophet Isaiah today (Isaiah 58:1-11), God reminds us of what He really wants during a fast…to also stop doing bad things and do good by helping those in need. He says if we will do this during our fasting:  “Then your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall spring forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard. Then you shall call, and the Lord will answer; you shall cry, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’”

Jesus established fasting as a normal part of the life of those who would follow Him as He said: “When you fast…” (Matthew 6:16-18).  He didn’t say “If”, but rather “When” …showing that fasting is to be a normal part of our Christian lives.  Why would the Lord ask us to fast?  We know that He loves us and desires the very best for our lives.  The Lord’s very best and our idea of what is the often seem to disagree.  But when we obey, we may find ourselves blessed in ways we never could have imagined.   

Listen to what St. Athanasius has to say about fasting in his treatise, “On Virginity”: “Fasting cures ills and dries up bodily tumors, casts out demons, and turns away evil thoughts; it makes the mind brighter, the heart clean, and the body holy; and it presents man before the Throne of God.”  Wow, that is quite a list of the benefits of fasting for the Christian.

St. John Cassian writes: “Self-control and fasting are especially important for bringing about that specific purity of soul which comes through restraint and moderation.  No one whose stomach is full can fight mentally against the demon of unchastity.  Our initial struggle therefore must be to gain control of our stomach and to bring our body into subjection.”  Fasting is not a cake-walk…pardon the pun. We are being called to a discipline that involves effort on our part.

St. John Chrysostom reminds us that our fast is not simply about food and drink: “The honor of fasting consists not in abstinence from food, but in withdrawing from sinful practices…Do you fast?  Give me proof of your works!  If you see a poor man, take pity on him!  If you see an enemy, be reconciled to him! If you see a friend gaining honor, do not envy him!  If you see a beautiful woman (or a handsome man ladies), pass her (him) by!  For let not the mouth only fast, but also the eye, and the ear, and the feet, and the hands, and all the members of our bodies.” 

St. Cyril of Jerusalem (+386) in “The Catechetical Lectures” tells us: “For we fast by abstaining from wine and meat, not because we abhor them as abominations, but because we look for our reward; that having scorned things sensible, we may enjoy a spiritual and intellectual feast.” 

The choice is totally ours when it comes to fasting.  No one is forcing us.  We are free to fast or to eat steak and ice cream for every meal through each fasting time.  That’s the way God is…our relationship with Him is a matter of our free will.  Even if you haven’t fasted at all through this Great Lent, it is not too late to begin if your health allows it. If you can’t fast, there is still time to increase your devotional life. Holy Week awaits us…and the choice is ours to make. Perhaps “To Fast or Not to Fast?” really is a question before us.

Journeying with you to the empty tomb of Christ…Fr. Stephen

Suggestions from God

“I am the LORD your God…Who leads you in the way you should go. O that you had hearkened to My commandments! Then your peace would have been like a river, and your righteousness like the waves of the sea!” (Isaiah 48:18)

The Lord gives us lots of great suggestions on how we should live this gift of life He has bestowed on us.  Oh wait; did I say “suggestions”?  Well, that’s often how I take His commandments.  I mean, some of them are great ideas, but often I trust my own opinions more that those “suggestions” from God.

We can take a look at most any “suggestion” from God and see the results of not following His ways.  The issue of gluttony comes to mind, since that is one that I seem, by my actions, to know better than God.  The Scriptures are pretty clear about avoiding gluttony.  But, when I decide that I would rather listen to my own guidance, what happens?  Well, I don’t sleep very well because my stomach is extended beyond belief and I try most of the night to find peace in the midst of gurgling. I hate it when that happens.  And yet, like the dumb dog licking the hot stove twice, I keep repeating my over-eating.  Do I really expect a different result?  Isn’t that the definition of insanity?

If we want our bodies and minds to operate well, it would make sense to follow His instructions. The big problem for most of us is that it is a whole lot more fun to do what we want, when we want, and how ever we want to do it.  It is pleasurable at the moment to over-eat, over-drink, to gossip, to get angry, to lie, to cheat, to steal, to cuss, to … the list seems endless. These may even feel good at the moment, but later we regret them.

The promise from God is that if we implement His commandments (not suggestions) into our lives, we will experience this incredible peace (like a river flowing through us) and that we will be righteous in His eyes (becoming men and women of God).  Is it any wonder that the enemy of our souls is constantly whispering in our ears “suggestions” that we do what we want to do because it will feel good and bring us pleasure? Is this really what we want to do with our lives?

In all honesty, this is no laughing matter.  This verse from our reading in Proverbs 19 today indicate its seriousness“He who keeps the commandment keeps his soul, but he who is carelessof his ways will die.” This is not about some legalistic keeping of God’s commandments because we want to appease an angry god (that is a serious false doctrine!).  Rather, it is about developing a life-style that is in line with God’s ways, because His ways are truly the best way for us to live. When we decide that we should be “lord” of our own lives, we open ourselves up to a world of hurt.

Today is a good day to implement some of the commandments of God into our life style. When we try even a little, our loving God is there to help us and give us strength. Who knows? Maybe tonight I will go to bed with a stomach that is a little hungry rather than over-extended and the result will be a peaceful night of rest.

Journeying with you to the empty tomb of Christ…Fr. Stephen

Can We Talk About Mary This Morning?

Can we talk about Mary this morning without someone thinking we are about to worship her?  Can we call her the most “blessed” woman to ever live without being accused of Mariolatry? I say that partly in jest, but at the same time, I have heard that so very many times from well-meaning Christians who cringe when they hear her called the “Mother of God.”  In some segments of Christianity, Mary is almost totally forgotten except at Christmas when the story of our Lord’s Birth is read. Our daily reading today is Luke 1:39-49,56 and it is about Mary.

The knee-jerk reaction some folks have over calling Mary the “Mother of God” is usually because they don’t understand that the title is really about Whom Jesus is and not about worshipping Mary. The Early Christians called Mary the “Theotokos”, meaning the “Bearer of God.” She is the one who gave birth to God come in the flesh, indeed the Mother of God.  In the 5th century a leader of the Church named Nestorius began to teach that Mary was not “Theotokos” but was “Christotokos” (the bearer of Christ, not God).  The Church came together in Ephesus in 431 to take a look at what Christianity had believed from the beginning.  What did Jesus teach; what did the Apostles teach; what did their disciples teach? 

That Ecumenical Council proclaimed the Truth that had been handed down through each generation from the beginning of the Church: Jesus is indeed God come in the flesh, very (true) God of very (true) God and that Mary gave birth to God come in the flesh for our salvation.  It condemned the false doctrine of Nestorius.  The title Theotokos was indeed the correct title for Mary because of the true identity of her Son. It is about Jesus that the title was bestowed on her and that title is still true today.  Mary is the Mother of God…truly the Theotokos.

For those who also cringe when they hear Mary being called “Blessed” here are a few words today’s reading in the Holy Gospel of Luke:

“And Mary said: “My soul magnifies the Lord, and my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior. For He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant; for behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed. For He who is mighty has done great things for me, and holy is His name.” (Luke 1:46-49)

Anyone who truly believes and tries to follow the teachings of the Bible should definitely be calling Mary “Blessed”.  “All generations” certainly includes us today. In fact, she is without doubt the most blessed woman to ever live. Through her obedience, she gave birth to our Lord Jesus Christ, God come in the flesh for our salvation.

Journeying with you to the empty tomb of our Lord…Fr. Stephen